I Have Fingers or Winter Wonderland

On my way to the gym I realize that I forgot my gloves at home. Oh, well. I’m wearing enough layers and gym is only five blocks away.

Walking out of the gym, in my post workout smiley-high, I have a strong urge to go food shopping. Not just an urge. Refrigerator is also in desperate need of replenishment.

Ok, supermarket is pretty close, 5 minutes and I’m there, then 5-10 more minutes of outside endurance and I’m back in my boiling hot apartment. Deal. It’s been like 8 or 9 New York winters for me already… I should be plenty toughened-up by now. Hands should certainly survive the… what….15-20 degrees (that's Fahrenheit, for you Celsius speakers..)? For sure! My fingers should be well immune to mere ten naked minutes. Am NOT gonna run home just to get gloves. Decision made.

Coming out of the supermarket. Jolly. Each hand holding two relatively light shopping bags. No biggie at all. Will be home in no time.

Ooooooooo-Kayyyyyy. 60 seconds into my walk home and fingers are beginning to go on strike, i.e. freeze. Horrified I realize that on my way to the supermarket, hands were in pockets, but now it’s an impossibility since carrying groceries… Ooops.

Major tactical error.

But I’m soooo close to home. I can do this. Cab please?

One more block and I do not feel my fingers anymore. No fucking cabs. Koos Emeck!! (ask someone else what that means…).

Bursting into following mantra: “I have fingers. I have fingers. I have fingers”. I am forcing myself to come to a meditative state: “…have fingers….have fingers”.

It’s not helping. But the only choice I have right now is to continue walking. CANNOT stop! MUST NOT stop!

Walk. Walk. Walk. But I can’t. I can’t anymore. No more fingers. They froze to death. Bags feeling really really heavy all of a sudden.

%^&*####@@@%#######......

That unbearably painful second when I felt the bags were about to pull away from me and drop down, taking bloody disintegrated fingers and messy flesh with them on their way to the ground (frozen blood, wonder what that looks like), I found myself standing outside my building. I was ecstatic to see a neighbor opening the door, What a relief! Now I don't have to deal with the excruciating struggle of searching for my keys in coat pockets. But she can’t see me. I am 5 feet behind her. She can’t see me!! Where is my voice?!!!!! Up to two minutes ago I was singing out loud that I still have my fingers, but now…what happened to my voice?!!!

The door closed behind neighbor, and my salvation evaporated. I’m outside. Bags on the ground. But I CANNOT help my agonized screaming fingers travel into my coat pockets in order to get my keys! God please help me! I am praying for another neighbor to come.

No one. No one walked in. No one walked out. Miraculously I managed to pull out my keys, and I will save you the boring description of how long it took me to bring those light shopping bags into the building, through the lobby, to the elevator and into my apartment….

Cut to- I’m home!! On the verge of unconsciousness. Fingers glued to loving radiator. I make my way to the sink, letting hot water caress my hands and bring them to life again. What an enchanted sensation. Color back to fingers, I am starting to feel them again.

Frozen versus frozen, I pull out a popsicle from the freezer and crash on the couch.

You can never forget your gloves at home, says my mom’s voice from deep inside my head, and adds: I hope you’ve learned your lesson, young lady.

I have.

Happy Channuka!

Merry Christmas!

If I Could Turn Back Time

I am back in my homeland for the Holidays, my very special time of year. Soaking in all the family time and love that I can, acknowledging my sweet inhalations of what I always miss between visits, constantly reminding myself what a sentimental freak I am….

Last night was a special party night, as the clock went back one hour at 2 am, bestowing upon the working people that delicious extra hour of sleep (FYI- Sunday is a working day here in Israel).

After sampling a few hot spots and enjoying what Tel Aviv has to offer at night (a lot!), including a few sips (which is all my mutant system needs to make me think that I'm trashed drunk...) of my favorite alcohol (that I can NEVER find in NY- Arak- can somebody help me import it pleeeez??), I crash at my dear friend Karin’s place. Her cat Gandolfini (James, she has a crush) is the sweetest snugilicious kitten ever- among the ugly cats, that is (although she truly believes he’s the most beautiful cat in the world).

Karin forgot her cell in the car. I convinced her not to walk drunk the five blocks to her car, and instead- to use my own Israeli cell to wake us up in time to drop off a Gandolfini’s gift to the world at the vet’s office and make it to (her) work on time, after dropping me off.

Karin got all kooky OCD on me, and checked the time on my phone twelve hundred times, cuz she didn’t trust me when I assured her again and again that in the States the cell phones change the times automatically.
It didn’t cross my intoxicated mind for one second that we’re actually IN ISREAL and this is an ISRAELI PHONE, and here you have to change the clock manually…. What’s so much more incredible is how I managed to convince HER that my cell clock was magically showing the new time….. But when you’re drunk and tired, it all makes sense (after testing the alarm 300 times).

Cut to….

10:15 am: Am waiting half asleep for Karin in the car, when she storms in, yelling:
“I can’t believe these f---ing potheads! They are supposed to open at 10!!!!!!!!!. What am I gonna do?”. Not waiting for my response (not that I had one), she storms out of the car, looking like a crazy woman about to vandalize anything that stands in her way to figure out what’s wrong with Gandol’s poop.

10:20 am: She’s not back. Now I’M getting worried I’m gonna miss my 12 noon appointment. If we don’t leave NOW, I’m not going to be able to stop by home first to change! I call home, in an effort to tailor a contingency plan. My dad answers the phone, and when I finally let him plug in a word, I hear it : “But it’s only 9:20, re-lax!”. Noooooo.

9:21 am. I call Karin, right before she breaks vet’s office door. I tell her the real time. She screams and then threatens to kill me. She comes back to the car, and after describing how she’s gonna kill me (strangulation), I hear: “You’re gonna pay for this. You’re gonna pay BIG time. I want at least 2 hours of sleep from you. From your OWN stock!!!”. She’s very serious. So I agree. I will give her two extra hours, taken directly from my personal quota, even three. Only then do we finally calm down and stop screaming at each other. And we both take responsibility. And then laugh hysterically.

It happened this morning, I swear, but I’m still not quite sure that it did. Regardless, instead of letting it be an embarrassing occurrence that should be kept between the two of us (and my dad, who’s still laughing at his ditzididoo offspring), I am telling the world. I am owning my absurdities and accepting them. I highly recommend it to you all!!!

Happy and Sweet New Jewish Year!

I am beyond exhausted, which leads to more typos here than real words (Word is my co-writer tonight. Many thanks!). It’s been a long day and I am crashing.

Goodnight! Sleep well, and sweet dreams, wherever you are!

(Gandolfini’s poop is spotless, thanks for asking)

Underwear and the Art of Adulthood Maintenance

The train is coming. I am rushing. I can hear it. I am running. I am wearing a skirt, buttoned down shirt, jacket, and heels. I am a lady; I am dressed like a lady, a lady of importance and substance. Business.

It’s not me. I am the most me with my jeans and a tank top. That’s how I’m comfortable. I change “costumes” in my daily life all the time, but it always boils down to my comfort place- my jeans-tank-flip flops.

I can’t really run like this, heels are killing me. I am changing to the flip flops I always keep in my bag, while running (special skill, remind me to teach you how), in order to minimize my obstacles in making the subway that is rapidly approaching the station. I can’t run barefoot cuz I’m a lady. An adult. Now, if I were a kid, it would be a different story. I could avoid changing to flip flops. I would run barefoot and still look normal (but then again, a little kid wouldn’t wear what I’m wearing now… catch 22). But I won’t let it stop me. I am sprinting like a mad woman the remaining half a block and the stairs that I have left to gulp in order to make the subway and not to be late. Flip flops are not letting me run as fast as I can, but a lady can’t run barefoot, right?

Oh, NO, this is not really happening! Underwear, oh not now!! You see, I don’t like wearing tight underwear so…..while running, my underwear is beginning to slip down (no pun intended!) my thighs. My instinct tells me to just take off underwear and continue running. That’s the natural thing for me to do. But I am NOT a little girl! Imagine how THAT will be perceived on one hot & humid summer city afternoon. It’s more like some sexy scene in a racy movie.

Oh, no! It has just very strangely dawned on me that I am a woman, not a little girl, just because I could not take off my slipping underwear and run barefoot… That was a very odd and distractive thought that should be obvious (and IS obvious, don’t get me wrong), but still hit me in such an overwhelming and mentally gushing manner…..

And so… one flip (or one flop) flew off my foot and I tripped, trying to pull up said underwear.

And so I missed my subway. Noisy train leaving the platform just as I arrive, limping… My foot is hurting so much, and now it hurts to walk. And I’m late.

But all I could think of is how unnatural and costumed I feel when I wear that get-up and how there is a possibility that somewhere inside, I don’t wanna grow up. I’ve pondered that conundrum before, and I know that I’m not that special, as a lot of adults deal with such issues at one point or another. But oh- My-God can I be analytical….If I “wanna go there”, in seconds I am capable of convincing myself that I wanna stay a little girl forever just because I wanted to take off my underwear while running to make a train….

But apart from accepting that it has little bit of natural truth to it, and instead of beating myself up over it, maybe it just means that I just don’t fit in a serious corporate world, maybe it’s ok that my version of adultness does not include business “uniform”. Maybe it’s ok that once in a while I have the primal urge to run naked and free.

And maybe it’s all because I grew up in Israel, where dress code was always so casual…even at weddings people show up wearing jeans and sandals (sometimes flip flops!!).

Cut to – Couch. Home. My damaged foot is iced on a big comfy pillow. I am dressed as comfortable as can be. No jacket, no business skirt, no heels, and duhhhh, NO underwear. Liberated in my confines. I can still be a lady, right? Balance, as always, is the solution. I am soaking up all the physical comfort I need so I can go out there again, dressed up like a power lady of substance and importance.

(Note to self: When wearing “business” skirt, remember: very serious formfitting underwear, or if said skirt long enough- none at all. Just in case I need to run).

(Note to You: Try not to neglect who you REALLY are, even, and especially, when it’s challenging).

Mindfulness

So I started doing Yoga a month ago and I am very pleasantly surprised at what it’s doing to me.

I have been resisting yoga for such a long time. My workouts always consist of jumping and hitting and sweating and setting my ass on fire. And I like that, or at least that’s how I program my brain.

Well, my fitness regiment is without a doubt addictive and empowering. And yoga, when I tried it a few years ago, simply pissed me off! I was frustrated and pissed off. Throughout the class I would mumble like a grumpy old man words and phrases that grumpy old men would probably blush to hear… I would basically curse the world and myself the whole time. Or simply felt bored and my thoughts drifted to other worlds where I’m hitting heavy bags or taking off on the elliptical (my friends claim I look like a plane taking off when I’m on that machine) Now, that doesn’t sound right…. I mean I considered myself strong, in shape and at times- omnipotent. And this yoga “thing” drove me crazy. I felt limited and I kept comparing myself with the people around me. My competitive nature blinded me throughout the experience and I would come out of class a beaten up crippled soul, doubting myself to a pulp. So I quit….

Recently it’s been suggested to me that I should give Yoga a second chance (will it even take me back after all the mean things I said...I wondered). This time I prepared myself, set up some goals, which did not include conquering asanas or even trying to. I decided to see what happens. And not be negative.

I was fortunate to have my first class with an amazing instructor. She started by asking us to set up one goal for the class and I decided it would be “to discover something new about myself”.

By the end of the class I achieved the goal, and then some…

I found out that yoga can be an amazing source of balance and solace for me. That was such a powerful discovery.

I didn’t treat the asanas as “things” that I must perfect, I didn’t look around, I just did what I could, focused on breathing and relaxed into the postures. One of my great discoveries was how balancing postures, like bending or pulling to one side and then – the other side, can balance my inside. It felt like my soul is getting a workout. Negative thoughts, being hard on myself, harsh self judgment, all that managed to dissolve. I don’t even know exactly how it happened, but I came out of that class feeling empowered, taller, peaceful and confident, in a way that my fiery workouts have not supplied.

It’s been a month now. I am continuing my burning regiment as before, but I’ve added twice a week of soul time. Yoga has become a form of therapy, teaching me softness, acceptance, inner strength, forgiveness ( forgiving myself for settling into child pose once in a while, resting instead of forcing myself to do an asana that is too difficult for me), balance, letting go and overall peace. It constantly challenges me, and more than once it has already happened that the instructor would notice my lips whispering “fuck fuck fuck” and come to my salvation, reminding me “it’s okay”….

I am not quitting this time, the benefits are too noticeable and too life changing for me to quit Yoga. I am quite amazed at how Yoga became an important part of my life. It is actually as active and dominant outside the classroom for me as it is inside. I am continuing to be pleasantly surprised, and more importantly, to make new self discoveries through Yoga.

Memorial Day- The Israeli Way

When I moved to the States, one of the things that struck me the most as a disturbingly strange national and social mutant, which throughout the years I’ve even more strangely grown to accept, was Memorial Day, or… Memorial Day Weekend. Opening shot of summer, a symbol of vacation, sun, sand, beaches, and shopping. Lots and lots of shopping. Frozen in front of the TV, in a state of shock, , I watched back then endless commercials announcing Memorial Day sales. I needed to keep watching them to believe that it was real. And finally, at the end of my fascinated research, I came to the conclusion that here, in the Unites States, Memorial Day is for fun and leisure. I remember asking myself whether in America people care less about their dead soldiers. It’s such a young and naïve question (well I was very young and naïve…), but can definitely open up a very mature and important discussion. Not on this post, though. Please forgive.

Memorial Day, where I came from, where I am visiting these days, is a sad day.
A day to remember all of those who lost their lives protecting the nation, fighting for it, and sacrificing the most important thing, so we could have and continue to have Israel.
Memorial Day begins with a moment of silence. All over the country, for one minute, 60 seconds, people stand in silence. No matter what they are doing, for one moment it all stops; cars, buses, trucks, trains, machines, and people, all people as one. It always seemed to me so natural and organic to a nation, until I traveled outside of Israel. A united moment of standing in silence, honoring those who died, or honoring anything, is probably impossible anywhere else. But it’s such an integral part of Israel; you never forget how you got to your “here and now”. Memorial Day in Israel is not a bookend holiday, or part of the first summer weekend sale. It’s melancholic and solemn and depressing.

Three hours ago a loud siren transfixed the air here in Israel, and about 7 million people stood up to honor powerful ideas, thoughts and emotions. Memorial Day in Israel, and I’m back here again.

Tomorrow night we are celebrating 60 years of existence that is never obvious. And because the journey is never taken for granted, Memorial Day always comes to us the day before Independence Day. Watching it all as an outsider, you may think it’s all insane and way too intense for your psyche. And after a whole day of sad songs on the radio (all channels, yes!) and constant acknowledgment of unbearable deaths, the last thing you’d be able to do is go out partying all night. Not to mention spend the next day barbequing. It definitely does look peculiar when we artificially say “now we cry”, and the next day “now we’re happy”, if you don’t know the idea behind it (and even if you do, you still know it’s strange, and you acknowledge its strangeness, that’s part of the idea…).

The happiest day of the nation is preceded by a day of mourning the people who died for our freedom and independence. Whether they knew it or not, whether they wanted it or not, they sacrificed themselves so we could celebrate something that sadly cannot be obvious- the independence and successful existence of Israel.

Israel is a very emotional, sappy and sentimental nation. We let it all out, we don’t keep it inside. We are emotionally available. Our grief and joy are both total, intense, and wholehearted.
We tell it like it is (you may have heard…).
And these two days, Memorial Day, followed by Independence Day, are…bluntly...
telling it (to ourselves) like it is.

Backstage Article!

Hey Yous

So the article is posted online now with the cover shot. Alas, it's missing some pictures, but you can at least read if you wish:

http://www.backstage.com/bso/news_reviews/features/feature_display.jsp?vnu_content_id=1003721186

Yay- My Backstage Cover Story!

If anyone can check it out, this week's Backstage's cover story is about actors who immigrated to the US. Interesting article, and you can see my pix and read what I have to say.
It's nice to have my picture on the cover, kinda weird seeing myself peeking from newstands....

Yay! I'm so excited!

My Own Private Snow

Snow. Dust and flakes and a thick comforting carpet of white.

The pink sky is shedding countless magical balls. There is something so regal about the way they move. They seem like they’re having fun together. Their short lives have a mission, one united mission. Orchestrated so gracefully. I feel blessed threading through the white, looking down and up, watching the relaxed coconut flakes joyfully crashing into my coat.

It’s not as cold as it was just yesterday. I feel cozy walking in the snow storm. Go figure. For a minute, or an hour or two, it feels nice, before the guys come to take it all away so we don’t slip. It’s peaceful out, serenely quiet, not dangerously icy yet. I soak it all in and give myself a big relished mental smile.

It hasn't always been like this… God I remember my first winters outside of Israel, i.e. New York… Yes, Israel is not very experienced in the snow department. Back there… it’s more like…Southern California weather, I should say.

So how should I convey this…Every time it snowed during my first winters here, my mind automatically and uncontrollably traveled to World War II, and please allow me to be specific, the Holocaust.

Ok, maybe I am the only person in this world with this strange association, maybe not. But that’s how it was, Holocaust movies frantically running inside my mind; Nazis and trains, loud shouts in German..

I should probably say now that I lived near a train station back then (where the train is above ground, not under…), so my gloomy visions engulfed me every time it snowed and the train station was at sight. That meant- when leaving home and coming home. Doesn’t sound very pleasant, I know. Dreadful, more like it. I saw so many Holocaust movies growing up in Israel, especially being a descendant to a Holocaust surviving family. I don’t know why, but trains in the snow and Nazis screaming had become a chilling memory of those movies and documentations of the Holocaust. It felt personal, it became a gruesome sensation that I could not control. Those pictures felt more like personal memories.

At some point I was able to shake them off completely.

Snow flakes have become my joyful and cozy allies.

Thank you for reading a glimpse of my “snow-graphy”.

Don’t forget to play in the snow.